The Drawbacks of being an Extrovert.

To start out, I want to say. I am an Extrovert. My fiancé is an Introvert. We both know this, we get along great and we know the needs of the other when it comes to this.

Introverts generally recharge their batteries, deal with stress and sadness and issues with alone time, in the quiet, maybe reading a book or just chilling out in the back yard with no one around. Extroverts, need to be with other people to recharge their batteries and deal with stress. Often will go to public places, talk on the phone, if alone chatting on the

internet. There are a million posts about understanding Introverts and all of the misconceptions people have. There are very few about Extroverts, and let me tell you, there are a lot of them. Between school, a few articles, and personal experience I have put together a decent list.

Keep in mind, this doesn’t all apply to all extroverts, but generally most apply to most extroverts.

• Extroverts feel the effects of Depression more drastically than Introverts. (in general)

• Having a full day open and no one to hang out with will increase stress and irritability.

• Extroverts need to talk or vent to someone when upset, stressed, or depressed. Otherwise it will get worse.

• Extroverts do like to have quiet time, but it can’t be just whenever. They need to control when and where.

• Don’t expect them to always be the life of the party or to always continue a conversation. That is a misconception.

• Labels such as Shallow, Needy, Clingy, or Self Centered usually are given to extroverts.

• Extroverts are also labeled as Bubbly or unintelligent because of their constant gab and the next one on the list…

• …“Often speak before they think” Usually because they don’t guard their thoughts or beliefs.

• Unexpected alone time can drastically change the attitude of an extrovert to the negative.

• Imagine the “annoying” person in class or meetings that talks way too much.. They are the Extrovert and usually can’t help it. Imagine how they feel though when they realize that they are doing it, then try to restrain themselves, which makes them feel even worse.

• An extrovert can burn out from too much socializing, but often cannot stop.

• Often an extrovert has a hard time not spending money, because spending money is tied to interaction with people. Some have a hard time saying no, even when they are completely broke.

• Extroverts often seem to be flirting or hitting on others, when in actuality, that’s just the way they are. This can cause issues with current relationships. Or misconceptions even by the people they are conversing with.

• People often assume that an Extrovert is always happy and isn’t allowed to be sad, of course, see above.

• Extroverts are always confident is not true, being outgoing is just natural and can easily be seen as confidence.

• Conversations happen and sometimes it will seem an Extrovert doesn’t care about what you have to say. This is not the case. Actually without your input the extrovert can fall into that “I’m the only one talking” phase and then stop the conversation abruptly (as stated above) then feel awkward as well as make the rest of the group feel awkward.

Remember, Extroverts need people, so if someone who you know is an Extrovert is down, strike up a conversation, or ask them to talk about it. It will help them out. If you know an Extrovert is home alone or has a free night with nothing to do, see if you can make time to hang out.